Very often people ask me these questions. How can you be so happy, energetic and bubbly all the time? How can you be so positive and love everyone around you irrespective of their actions and behavior? How can you express your love to anyone with such an ease? Are you in love?
I am in Love; Yes I am very much in Love. And now I am sure your curiosity increases manifolds and you all must be very curious and want me to disclose the identity of the person who is the reason of all these positive emotions in me.
It's true that when we are in love everything seems so good, beautiful, lovely, wonderful and amazing. We can use hundreds of adjectives to describe how we feel at that point of time. Our heart starts beating faster, our senses become more active; a sweet fragrance can give sensation to our body, an old song can just bring smile on our face, flowers can give us sense of wonderment, a mere touch can give us goose bumps and a thought can just make us feel good and take us in some other world. Each part of our body starts responding to our thoughts, emotions and feelings naturally. The same world in which we used to live seems to be different and much more beautiful place to live in.
We start feeling as if we are flying without wings in the infinite sky. Actually love makes us feel alive and helps us to explore our own self. Have you ever wondered that why do we start feeling so special? So in that matter, I am sure we all have fallen in love with someone once in our lifetime. A stranger enters in our small world and our whole life changes. He’s a person who remains with us accepting us as we are with all our flaws, weaknesses, strengths and goodness. He’s never judgmental for who we are and how we behave and moreover we don’t need to wear mask when we are with him. . He makes us feel special and unique as a person and therefore we feel that we have found the right person to fall in love with. Soon his smile and presence in our life becomes the reason of our being happy.
Does that mean the source of our happiness is the person whom we are in love with? Do you really think we need someone to fall in love with to experience all these beautiful feelings? Majority of us think that’s true, but what if he starts judging us for our likes and choices? What if he starts interfering in our lives? Will that state of love and happiness remain intact? No doubt, we are still that same beautiful person and he has also not changed, still our happiness and good feeling just wipes off. In fact many a times we start creating negative feelings for him. This clearly shows that the happiness and love which we were experiencing earlier was not due to that person but the thoughts which we created inside us due to the presence of that person. When we are accepted, admired and appreciated by someone we start feeling special, beautiful, unique; we start loving and taking care of our self more and more, which eventually makes us feel good.
The fault is not ours; actually we are brought up with the belief system that we need to get love from the people around us. No one taught us that love can be created inside and we don’t need anyone from outside to make us feel loved. Therefore, in our childhood days also we kept on longing for love and acceptance from our parents, teachers, siblings and friends. And in order to get the same we were ready to do anything and as I remember many a times we were threatened that if we’ll not behave properly (that means as per their self-created norms of good behavior) we’ll not be loved by anyone and will be left alone, as if being alone is the most terrifying punishment. I wish someone would have told us about the beauty of being with our own self and loving our own self.
I’m sure as a child we all got trapped in this vicious circle of getting love from others and gradually as an adult also our only agenda turned into pleasing everyone around us. We started wearing a mask of a so-called good person so that we can get love, acceptance and appreciation from others as we already came with the mindset that we can only feel good and happy when we’ll be loved by everyone around us.
On the contrary to it, one more point of concern is that in our society loving someone is a punishable offence, though we are free to express our hatred towards people. I have seen people who are scared and ashamed to express and discuss about their feelings. They are ready to discuss every emotion including anger, hatred, jealousy, but discussing about love is something which isn’t acceptable and permissible too. I still remember we were a group few friends and one of my friend said I love you all, I immediately responded I love you too everyone and you’ll be surprised rest of them were afraid to express their feelings. I wish I could help them to experience love in its purest form. Love is all about transmission of good feelings you have inside and allowance of all good feelings coming towards you without any doubts. Love has nothing to do with gender, romance or sex.
It’s no wonder to say that now our life has become a roller coaster which goes on high side when we get love and when we don’t get love it comes on a low side and this is how it keeps on moving up and down continuously . So now the question comes, what needs to be done to keep this good feeling intact and the only way to keep it is to ensure that we are in the domain of love every moment. Do you think, it’s possible to ensure regularity of something when it’s dependent on external factors and people? The answer is simple NO, so the only way by which we can be sure about its regularity is start creating it within our self on our own. Instead of searching it outside and getting dependent on other people for our inner state of happiness, let’s be the love which we have kept on looking outside since years.
Let’s fall in love with our self. Let’s feel the love in its absolute terms inside us. When we already have the key to the treasure, there’s no point waiting for someone to help us unlock it. Let’s initiate and take the keys and open the door by our self and then watch love will flow towards us and we’ll be drenched in it and now as we know that we are the creator of this feeling and emotions in us and we have the keys, we’ll always feel our self in the domain of love irrespective of people and circumstances around us. And the moment we are in love we’ll be the person who’ll spread love everywhere.
I accept, admire and appreciate myself. Yes I love myself and I feel really happy to confess that I am in love. Now it’s your chance to answer, Aren’t You??